The other day my mother casually said to me that it is better to be with someone who loves you more than you love them, and now I can’t get that out of my head. I’ve heard this notion from a few people, but I’ve always been of the mindset that two people should be equally in love with one another, both willingly invested in their relationship (otherwise, what’s the point?). But as I’ve gotten older, I’ve begun to really look at the awesome relationships around me and wonder whether there’s an imbalanced adoration that exists between the couple. Like, is this some secret knowledge that only people in great relationships know?
Then I start to think back on my own past relationships: Did I love him more than he loved me, or vice versa? Does it even matter? Then I wonder why am I even thinking about my past relationships, when they’ve all failed? Maybe the problem was that we were both too concerned about whether our love was being reciprocated that we missed the entire point of our relationship. Though, I find it hard to believe that I could be truly satisfied in a relationship in which I feel only 75% in love, especially when he’s fully invested at 100%. How’s that fair to him?
Anyway, I seem to be having a Carrie Bradshaw moment–overanalyzing again. So I’m going to turn this over to you: Do you think it’s better to be with someone who loves you more than you love them?