Most couples realize soon enough that having a happy marriage is a challenge. This doesn’t mean there are never disagreements or even fights, but it does mean each person wants the marriage to succeed. Living with and adjusting to another person isn’t always easy, and, in some cases, it may become impossible. If this happens, Cordell & Cordell can help. Click here to learn more about how to make a divorce as painless as possible.
Adjustment is the key word when it comes to overcoming challenges you face in your marriage. You also need to know when to stand your ground. Some of the most common problems are:
All in-laws aren’t intrusive, but when they are, it can be extremely difficult to handle. On the one hand you don’t want to upset your spouse, they are his or her parents after all, but you also don’t want your in-laws to intrude into your personal space. The best defense is a good offence. This means being forewarned that your sweet mother-in-law may become your worst nightmare.
It’s hard to agree on how to spend money. This isn’t because you or your spouse is wasteful, but you each have different ideas of what is important. Rather than complaining about the other’s spending habits, it’s better to agree in the beginning that you’ll discuss any large purchases and decide together what you can afford.
If you and your spouse grew up with basically the same childhood experiences, this may not be a problem for you, but for some, family traditions are a huge part of any holiday celebration. This is where adjustment will come to your rescue. Don’t assume that the holiday traditions you are familiar with will continue. It’s wiser to expect to make some compromises and possibly start a new family tradition for your children.
This is the easiest problem to solve, but if there are other issues smoldering beneath the surface, household responsibility may be the topic that gets blown out of proportion. Before you accuse each other of shirking household work, make sure you have clearly defined duties. This way, you can help each other when one of you can’t keep up your obligations.
It takes two to make a marriage work. If you find that you are the only one adjusting and compromising in your marriage, you may need another option.