With 2022 just around the corner, your mind is probably filled with songs from Mariah Carey’s Christmas album, how many people you can safely have over for Christmas, and the somewhat stressful question of how to make this new year better than the last.
The final two months of the year can be daunting. But this time is a reminder that, between your gift buying and cooking, don’t forget to prioritize yourself. Although new year’s resolutions are a common practice, it doesn’t mean they are a best practice. Resolutions tend to be very rigid. You either commit to doing something or not doing something. Goals, however, are more obtainable and flexible. Personal goals tend to be tied to a person’s motivations, where resolutions can be more superficial.
For this coming year, do yourself a favor and focus on creating goals that are practical, achievable, and fulfilling, instead of resolutions that are like a balloon — filled with air and only lasting for a short time. Here’s what you need to know about making goals that stick so that by the end of 2022 you can look back on all the things you’ve accomplished instead of a pile of poorly pursued hopes and dreams.
What Not to Do When Setting Goals
- Don’t focus your goals solely on work or work related things. Yes, it’s important to increase your sales, gain new clients, or expand your business. The problem with only setting goals around work or finances is that those aren’t the things that truly bring you joy. When you are setting your SMART goals, make sure you add one goal that is purely for your pleasure. Goals around self-care, family, friends, and hobbies are just as important as meeting a certain job quota.
- Don’t give up when you fail. Failure is a part of life. It’s going to happen numerous times. Instead of giving up, take the time to reevaluate, reassess, and learn. Perhaps you need to adjust your goal. Maybe you overestimated the time it would take you to complete. Perhaps you need to learn different skills to achieve your goal. You may need to ask for help. Either way, failure is never an excuse to give up on your dreams.
- Don’t limit yourself. When it comes to goals, don’t be afraid to go big but keep it realistic. When you think about your goals, you should have some type of butterflies-in-your-stomach sensation. If not, you’re playing small. When you play small, you get small results. Or worse, if your goal doesn’t excite you, you’re more than likely to put it off. Don’t be afraid to set the goal that scares you a bit. If you’re nervous about it now, think of how amazing it will feel once you’ve achieved it.
- Don’t keep them only in your mind. Did you know that the average human can have 1,500 thoughts per minute? If you don’t write your goals down, your goals will get pushed aside with the thousands of thoughts that take up space in your brain. Write your goals down!
Now that you know what not to do, it’s important to know how to make your goals stick and how to follow through so you can taste the success you’ve been craving.
If you’re reading this before the new year, then this is your sign to get started. Setting goals isn’t about just about making a list and posting it on your wall. Goat setting requires discipline, time, and the change of your routine. When you start early on your goals, like before the new year, you increase your chances of succeeding. When you start early you give yourself some wiggle room to see what works and what doesn’t. You acknowledge what things you need to change in your life to make sure you follow though.
Change Your Environment
Whether you realize it or not, you are servant to your environment and how your physical space is set up. If your environment is conducive to your goals, you are more likely to achieve them. If your goal is to write a book, but you are live in a space that is loud, crowded, and not favorable to writing, that book most likely won’t get done. Take care of your environment so it can take care of you.
Take Advantage of Resources and Extra Help
Yes, they are your goals, but you don’t have to go at them alone. If your goal is to write a children’s book, but you aren’t the best illustrator, hire someone to do the drawing. If you want to run a business but don’t now where to get started, find some free or low-cost business classes. Not having the tools is a poor and outdated excuse to not achieve your goals. Many of the filmmakers, YouTube stars, podcasters, and other influencers got started with using their phones. If there is something you lack, look to someone or something that can help you fill in the missing piece.
Stop Relying on Motivation and Adopt Better Habits
Relying solely on motivation to follow through on your goals is like relying on coffee to keep you hydrated. Yes, coffee for some people is like oxygen. It can provide you the boost you need to get through the morning and that mid-day slump, but it’s not enough to sustain you. Motivation will only get you out of bed a fraction of the time. Instead create habits around your goals so it’s that much easier to achieve them. Form habits such as waking up early or creating daily task lists of steps to achieve your goals.
Check Your Beliefs
Whatever you believe about yourself will turn into a repetitive thought. That thought eventually turns into words. Words eventually turn into action. If you believe your goals are attainable and if you believe you can achieve them, then you are most likely will. More so, if you believe that you are the person who will achieve those goals, it increases your odds even more. Instead of being the person that wants to be in better shape, be the person who exercises consistently. Instead of wanting to be the person who has their own business, be the person networking to grow their business. Remember the only person who can achieve your goals is you.
Making new year’s resolutions is so 2019. With the past two years feeling like something out of the Twilight Zone, 2022 is a time to live life on your own terms. It’s the time to do what truly makes you happy. Go out there and achieve your goals! Make your dreams come true! The only thing holding you back is you.
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Kiersten is a freelance writer and coach. As a writer, she has written for Travel Noire, Passion Passport, BAUCE mag, and various travel and lifestyle blogs. As a writer, her goal is to write content that inspires others to take action. As a coach, her goal is to empower women to be their most authentic selves. In her free time, you can find her dancing to any song any where.